If you want to talk to a professional about your options, there are different places you can go. Counseling at the places listed below will be free or cost very little.
No matter where you go for counseling, a counselor should always treat you with respect and make you feel good about yourself. A counselor may have strong feelings about adoption, abortion, and parenting a child. Nevertheless, those feelings should not influence their professional advice nor the treatment provided to you. In order to make up your own mind, it is important for you to get clear answers from your counselor to the three questions found below. The answers to these questions will help you choose the best option.
If I feel I cannot carry my pregnancy to term, how will you help me?
If I decide to take care of my baby myself, how will you help me do that?
If I want to place my baby for adoption, will you help me find an adoption agency or attorney who will listen to what I think is right for us?
If you are not happy with the answers you get, you may wish to find a counselor at another place.
Will my child wonder why I placed him (or her) for adoption?
Probably. But adoption now is probably a lot different from what it was when you were growing up. Most adopted adults realize that their birth parents placed them for adoption out of love, and because it was the best they knew how to do. Hopefully your child will come to realize that a lot of his or her wonderful traits come from you. And if you have an open adoption, it is likely that you will be able to explain to the child why you chose adoption.
Why am I placing my child for adoption?
If your answer is because it is what you, or you and your partner think is best, then it is a good decision. Now it is time to move forward, and not feel guilty.
Resource: National Adoption Information Clearinghouse.